Divorce is not only stressful, but it can be traumatic as well. Many people who are going through divorce feel like their life has been shattered or turned upside down. According to the Holmes and Rahe Social Readjustment Rating Scale (SRRS), divorce is the second most stressful life event an individual may experience, preceded only by the death of a spouse.
As family law attorneys, we understand that the effects of divorce can be devastating and far-reaching. Divorce will change or profoundly impact the physical, emotional, financial, and social aspects of a client’s life. It is important for clients to remember that denial, emotional pain, anger, and even depression are normal emotions they may experience as they go through the process of separation and/or divorce. Clients should give themselves time and permission to grieve the loss of their marriage. This is one of the many reasons we do not recommend that clients commence dating immediately following their separation.
Our family law attorneys are here to help clients with the legal issues that arise from separation, divorce, and other domestic matters. However, clients also will benefit from receiving professional counseling to help them adjust emotionally to the many changes that are taking place in their lives. Clients who have the benefit of a strong emotional support system are generally better able to adjust and move forward in a healthier manner. If the cost of counseling is a concern, then clients should consider other resources that may be available such as a divorce support group or counseling that may be accessible to them through their religious or spiritual advisors.
Clients should discuss with their attorney any mental health issues or emotional difficulties that they may be experiencing. While a client’s mental health or emotional state may or may not have any direct bearing on their legal case, it will be helpful to the attorney to be aware of any emotional difficulties the client is experiencing.