Unfortunately, client’s commonly believe that an opponent’s suggestions should routinely be rejected because they are either bad ideas, or they reflect some ulterior motive. Some clients want to automatically do the opposite of whatever is requested. A request, suggestion or offer from the other side is not always bad. Most attorney’s are not out to “get, trick, or ruin” opposing counsel or their clients.
Also, remember your spouse is most likely paying just as much as you in legal fees, suffering similar emotional pain, and devoting similar amounts of time to the case as you. Your spouse also wants a resolution. Try to keep things in perspective.